Ok this blog is going to be a little different. My wife and I attended a marriage conference this past weekend. It was a very good and interesting event. As we talked about afterwards I don’t think we learned anything new as much as it was reassuring that the things we have figured out in our almost 31 years of marriage were on track with the way a Christian marriage should be. I don’t want to give the impression that it’s always been a bed of roses because I’m not the easiest person to live with but we have always worked out our issues and never felt like calling it quits or looking for someone else.
The last assignment of this conference is to write a letter leaving a legacy for future family. They gave me a choice of scenario’s and the one I choose is this.
A hundred years from now , long after I’m gone a family member happens to be looking through my belongings and stumbles across this letter. I’m going to change this a little bit to they find this blog of mine on the internet or what ever they have a hundred years from now. So here goes.
Hello,
I’m your great, great, grandfather or what ever, I’m not grand anyway. But there were two in my life who were very grand in every way. And that is Jesus my savior and Lisa my wife. When I was 18 and a senior in high school I had just started attending church and the youth group was raising funds to go to an event. (Google anything that doesn’t make sense and that may include the term Google) I had accepted Jesus into my life but I really had no clue of what that meant. God knew this, so just as he gave Eve to Adam he gave Lisa to me. We had a fund raiser called a rock a thon that’s where you got pledges to sponsor you then you rocked in a rocking chair for 24 hours. Of course I fell asleep but when I awoke and Lisa was rocking my chair it was like God smacking up against my thick head and saying, I am giving this woman to you to take care of you for the rest of your life, and you had better do the same.
So about five months later I pledged before God to do just that. And the adventure began. In the first four years of our marriage we lived in four different states one of them twice. We met lots of different people, we had lots of fun experiences and some very sad. When we lost a child to miscarriage I didn’t know how to hurt, I was just young and dumb to really comprehend, but my soul mate was hurting and all I could do was try and be there for her as best I could. Shortly after that God gave us Holly and let me tell you I was scared to death. The first time I took care of her on my own was the most terrifying time of my life. But we all survived and God must have approved because he gave us a challenge we named Zach. He was all boy and ready to prove it. So there we were. All set one girl, one boy perfect little family. But it wasn’t perfect because we didn’t have Faith.
Mary Faith that is,( and I’m sure when she read this she rolled her eye’s and groined Dad joke) so there is a little life lesson for you just because you think you’re done with something. That doesn’t mean God agrees. First God blessed me with Lisa, then he entrusted us with Holly, Zach, and Mary Faith. None of that I deserved. Till I became a husband and a father, I had never thought about being a husband and a father. I spent my time thinking about being a astronaut or a Navy diver. I was as clueless as they come. But God had plans for me, and if you are blood of my blood. Then too you are apart of those plans.
As I see it there are a lot of important scriptures in the bible, the whole thing in fact, but what I think are two of the most important. Tell us to love one another, and to spread Gods word.
John 13:34-35
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another
And
Matthew 28:1919 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,
My take on these two scriptures is simple, because I’m a simple person, love one another treat everyone was you would treat those most precious to you. Don’t have hate in your heart. Where someone comes from, their skin color, their sexual orientation, or what you see as an injustice they have done to you. None of that is included in Gods words so don’t be putting it in there. You are to show them love that’s all. God will deal with their sins just like he will deal with your’s if you let him.
And the second verse to me means if you are a follower of Jesus, and I hope you are. Tell other’s!
Share the joy you have found. Don’t just accept Jesus and let it stop there.
And it will mean getting out of your comfort zone. Dying on the cross wasn’t comfortable. But sharing your faith isn’t nearly as painful.
I’m trying to do this right now. I don’t know you but I love you, you are after all my future. Because God brought Lisa and I together you now exist. I had no plans on getting married the day after I graduated from High School. I had already joined the Navy and I had great plans to experience every depravity the world had to offer. But then God happened and saved me in so many ways.
Its not easy being a Christian but I want you to know that just as my grandparents who preceded me to heaven and prayed for my soul were waiting on me the day I arrived. I along with them, are doing the same for you.
In His love,
Dan
So that’s my letter to my future family. It’s hard to imagine that one hundred years from there will be descendants of mine living, breathing, dealing with life. And I will be as forgotten to them as those a hundred years in my own past are forgotten to me. But I don’t matter, a personal relationship with God is all that matters and I hope that this blog makes it to them and can help them find that relationship if they don’t already have it.
Love and thanks for reading.